Once again the holiday season is here, bringing with it the seemingly inescapable message that this is a time for family and celebrations. While the holidays and family gatherings can be chaotic even in the best situations, they can be especially difficult following a divorce. Managing family expectations and responsibilities all while in a volatile emotional state can result in tremendous stress. The transition into single life may never be easy, however, having plans and strategies in place can help you to ease through the next few months as smoothly as possible.
Four tips for getting through the holidays after a divorce include:
- Be careful with expectations: The holidays do not have to be perfect or go off without a hitch. In fact, after a divorce, they rarely do. Attempting to stick to holiday traditions or schedules can lead to grief and headache. For example, if a celebration usually happens on Christmas Eve but cannot this year, that is okay. It may seem difficult to celebrate after a marriage has fallen apart, but do not let previous expectations stop you from enjoying victories and moments of happiness when they do happen.
- Don't isolate yourself: While taking time for yourself is important, try not to spend the entire season alone. Reach out to friends and family, take up new hobbies, or get away on a day trip. Divorce support groups in your area can also be an invaluable resource. Remember, you do not have to go through this process alone.
- Set boundaries in place: Before you venture out to meet with friends and family, do not be afraid to explain your situation. Let it be known what you are comfortable with doing as well as any topics you would rather avoid. You do not have to agree to take on responsibilities just because the holidays are here. On the other hand, be careful to not let your boundaries keep you from trying new things that might make you happy.
- Make a New Year's resolution: With the New Year approaching, there may be no better time for planning out your goals for the next year. If a 12-month plan is too intensive, start with just one New Year's resolution. Try going on more walks or runs. Exercise has been shown to relieve stress and improve overall health. You don't have to wait for the New Year to begin, you can start today.
Compassionate Attorneys You Can Rely On
If you are going through a divorce during the holidays, our legal team can help to take some of the stress off of your shoulders and help you through every step of the family law process. At Taub & Taub, P.C., we make every effort to understand the needs and goals of each client we work with. Backed by more than 40 years of combined experience, our Sherman Oaks divorce attorneys can provide dedicated legal support at the time when you need it most.
Let our attorneys help you through this difficult time. Call (818) 839-2415 to request a confidential consultation.